A final note

I am not a fighter.  That about says it all.  Conflict freaks me out.  I’m the kid who always had a white flag in her pocket, ready to wave in case the bullies came too close.  I know my own personality, and I know that I’m not capable, emotionally or otherwise, of dealing with the continuing comments that are still in play over at Dear Author.  (And Kyle, thank you for trying to stick up for me.  You tried your best, but I think you saw what it’s like.)  I am sad that the comments seem to come from the romance community, a community that nurtured my beginnings as a writer, and a genre that I’ve continued to stand up for, even though I no longer write it. 

I do regret and apologize for the tongue-in-cheek post about hyper-sensitive authors that started this off.  I wish I could retract it, although I don’t feel it’s right to take it down now because, as they say on Galaxy Quest, it’s an “historical document.”  I have made changes to it.  I hope it will better explain my intent.  Was it bad humor? Certainly.  Worthy of hounding and animosity?  I guess a lot of people think so.

Now the latest meme I’m hearing from Dear Author is that my blog is offensive and demeaning toward readers:

(Added 4/21 for clarification)

“Dear Ms. Gerritsen:

I read your blog today. I am a bit disappointed that you would blame my blog post and the commenters for ending your own blogging.

First, you know that the petition had nothing to do with you and your writing and everything to do with Amazon’s treatment of a reader.

Second, even if you chose to blog honestly, a blog is not a personal journal. It is a statement for any one out in the public to read, consume and comment on. If you did not want public feedback, why not have a diary that is kept at home for no one else to read? Or why not lock your posts so that only a select few are privy to your thoughts? To blame someone else for the consequences of your own actions seems very irresponsible.

You’ve stated very offensive and demeaning things towards readers in the past, in essence implying that they are smart enough to spend money on your books but not smart enough to provide any reasoned critique.

I actually read your blog quite a bit, but in regards to the DAM thing, I didn’t see any humor in it, particularly when you ended with the statement that DAM’s major foolishness was in getting caught. That was not her major foolishness and I think we both know it. Her major foolishness was in obtaining this readers personal information and making threats toward her. At best, this is unethical and at worst, it is felonious.

I’m not going to rehash this on the internet and whip it anyone into a frenzy, but I really dislike authors blaming my site for negative responses to their own words. If you choose to step back from blogging, you do so because it is your choice and yours alone.

Best regards,

Jane Litte

http://dearauthor.com”

If this is how my posts have struck people, then I have failed in my intent and have no business blogging. Jane is right; I should take responsibility for my own words.  I am.  Which is why I think it’s best to shut down.  As I wrote in a post over at Dear Author, if someone considers my posts demeaning and offensive, I don’t think it’s necessarily they’re fault; it’s mine.  I believe that the burden belongs on the shoulders of the communicator; if we don’t get our messages across, then we’ve failed at our mission.  And it’s certainly obvious that I’ve not done a very good job of making myself understood, because “offensive and demeaning” was never my intent. 

I will therefore leave up the archives of my blogposts so that readers can judge for themselves whether I’m demeaning and offensive.  No posts will be taken down. Some, however, may have editorial changes in the form of additional explanatory notes. (as I’m now adding to this one as I type.)

Thank you all for listening to me through the years.  For putting up with my bad moods and my rants.  I’ve tried to be an observer and an explainer and an analyzer.  And yes, at times, I’ve been a whiner.  I’ve tried to give you the writer’s point of view — and that’s been the point of the blog, to always stick up for the writer.  Because really, there are so few of us, and who else is going to?

The wonderful Paul Guyot wrote me with advice that ending one’s blog is the first step toward freedom.  I take this step sadly, but I think he’s absolutely right.

(editorial changes)

80 replies
  1. Debby J
    Debby J says:

    As a long time reader of your novels and a long time lurker on your blog, I’d like to say how much I have enjoyed what you have to say. Your honesty and generosity have always been refreshing and appreciated. Love ya, Tess!

  2. N Stone
    N Stone says:

    As a lurker only, I am sad to see you end the blog but read the vitriol posted against you on the Dear Reader site and can’t blame you one bit.

    Wow, as writers you’d think they’d be more supportive of the right to free speech. You used black humor to illustrate an outrageous act by the stalker author. How dare you use a literary device like that!

    However, those people on that website are vicious in a pirhana spikey teeth kind of way that is far worse than anything you’ve ever said on your site. Apparently they only have the right to say things in a manner they feel is forth right. Ah, I get that. I guess that baby in India’s not the only one with two faces.

    Well, enjoy your non-blogging time but know that you will be missed.

  3. drosdelnoch
    drosdelnoch says:

    Sad to see Tess, hopefully at somepoint you’ll restart putting up your POV along with your sense of humour. Try not to let the comments on a certain site get to you, you know who your fans are and that we’ll continue to support your work in thier many forms.

    Every person has to be treated like Iron Ore, they have to be put through the fires to temper them, they need to come out stronger rather than the brittle state that some do after such a “roasting”. Please take comfort in your family and look to the success youve already acheived as a benchmark. Never let others put you down and write what you want to write after all its why we buy and enjoy your work.

    All the best,

    Gareth

  4. BernardL
    BernardL says:

    Your logic in ending the blog because of comments on Dear Author is a little out of whack. After you end your blog, the same Trolls taking shots at you now will still take them. If you continue reading the Dear Author blog, how does ending your blog help? It would seem more helpful to simply stop reading Dear Author.

  5. jaq
    jaq says:

    I’m hoping this is more of a break or time out than a complete shut down.

    Anne Fraiser shut down her blog in February, but comes back periodically and does a post. (I think she’s done 3 so far since the ‘official closure’ of her blog). Even something like that would be better than bowing out completely, Tess.

    While I do understand (and to a certain extent agree with) Paul’s advice, I also think what Bernard has said also bears taking into consideration.

    There are a lot of people her who do appreciate your observations and opinions. You will be missed.

  6. Flash Bristow
    Flash Bristow says:

    Dear Tess,

    I am gutted that you have taken this decision. I can relate to what you’re saying – I remember being disproportionately upset when my music teacher screwed up a composition I’d done and threw it in the bin, because as with all art it contained part of me. So I do get it! But if you didn’t have the guts to put yourself forward in the first place, nobody would be able to enjoy your work. End of. And we NEED your work.

    (Your is pretty much the only fiction I’ve ever been able to get into, by the way. Everything else on my shelves is True Crime or Autobiography. Yours is the only fiction that I find detailed enough to come to life and be enjoyable in my head. But I digress.)

    I understand that criticism hurts. For example, I get hate mail to my website. But I get so many more comments that are appreciative. You simply have to let the bad stuff wash over you – otherwise it gets to you, and the bad guys win.

    And it’s so much easier to pass judgement and be critical than it is to be appreciative and say “I couldn’t do this good a job” or “well done”. People are quick to complain and slow to say thank you. So can’t you just ignore those who are critical? Are they people whose opinions you really value? You’re better than that; surely you can rise above it? For what it’s worth, I have seen negative reviews of your romantic books, bought them anyway, and enjoyed them. You can find whatever you want on the internet, be it something to criticise your position or something to back it up. In the end the only way is to step back and ignore the critics and carry on your own path, having faith in what you are doing.

    As you said recently, most authors can’t live on income from their writing. So maybe there’s a certain amount of sour grapes at your success? A need to feel big by picking on someone else? Perhaps they are even envious in the way you feel able to speak up, or feel threatened by the fact you are speaking the truth about writing?

    I hope you don’t give up blogging. The braver and stronger option is to ride the storm and to continue contributing – maybe you don’t have the time or energy for it right now, but I hope you’ll be back when you’re able.

    I’ve always respected you (and Torey Hayden, who is the other author I read a lot) for being publicly approachable, for having something to say, for being a person as well as a face on a book cover. So many writers are soulless in that way. When you blog, it’s valuable in a way that you may not even realise.

    I really enjoy your postings and I’m sure that for every idiot that finds it easy to criticise, there are so many more who appreciate what you do.

    Please reconsider, or at least, come back when you feel able. I truly hope this is au revoir and not adieu.

    Flash Bristow – http://www.gorge.org

  7. jaq
    jaq says:

    I feel the need to clarify, in agreeing with Bernard I mean that if folks mean to about you in ways that upset you, they’ll continue to do so whether you keep this blog open or not.

  8. darik
    darik says:

    I am a big fan and lurker of this blog site. I find myself coming here on regular basis, and even though I am a big fan of your books, I have come to think of you as a friend through your posts. I just don’t believe that this will end. You must at lest keep us posted about your book’s subjects and titles. I am also making sure to memorize few of the authors on that other site and never, ever buy their books. I will also make sure to tell everyone I know to do so as well:-). Their attack on your person just based on something you said makes that site and people on it major hypocrites, considering the initial topic.
    You will truly be missed.

  9. Ali M
    Ali M says:

    My advice would be stop reading Dear Author, that’s the root of the issue. Let em say whatever, it means nothing in the real world and only compounds their jealousy and hypocrasy. They’re only resenting someone who’s accomplished more than they ever will.

    You’ll still be loved here in Ireland!! 🙂

  10. JD Rhoades
    JD Rhoades says:

    Sigh…I know, Tess. Much as I try to urge you to just shrug it off, I know in my heart you just wouldn’t be the same Tess if you could. It just hurts to see people hurt you so carelessly.

    But, much as I hate to see this blog go dark, I know how these Internet brouhahas can take over your thoughts. I finally bailed on one group a few years ago when I found myself composing retorts to a particularly idiotic and persistent Endurance Troll* and muttering them to myself during a morning bike ride. That…well, that just wasn’t sane. If you get to the point where you’re thinking about nasty blog comments rather than working, then yeah, it’s time to walk away.

    BTW, anyone who thinks you’re demeaning towards readers is either being deliberately dishonest for the sake of propping up a shaky argument, or they’re just not paying attention.

    *Endurance Troll: one who regards merely making the last post as a major victory and who therefore stays on the thread, often making inane and irrelevant one-sentence responses, until everyone else has quit in disgust and walked away. Often an ET will spend the next few months crowing about how he “kicked your ass” in that thread.

  11. Alison Kent
    Alison Kent says:

    My advice would be stop reading Dear Author

    I have – a decision which surprises me, as I’ve always enjoyed the site, but the last two or three kerfluffles there have crossed my personal line – more so in the comments than in the posts.

    I admire what Jane and company has built there, but the community as a whole has taken on a contentious tone that offends me too often. I’m another who avoids conflict at all cost.

    When I realized, however, that I was reading threads with 400+ comments of back and forth over someone’s photo, I had to slap myself. That environment is not one I want to involve myself in.

    Enjoy your freedom, and know you will be missed.

  12. JD Rhoades
    JD Rhoades says:

    I’m with you, Alison. I’ve enjoyed it too (despite not being a romance reader or author), but when a forum comments section devolves into a “let’s all get x” fest, it’s time to drop it, for the reasons set out above.

  13. Maureen P
    Maureen P says:

    Tess-

    I, too, am a “lurker” of your posts. I’ve enjoyed your musings, opinions, and honestly about your topics. I may not always agree, but I can respect your opinion without having to agree to it. I respect your bravery to be so open and honest. I appreciate your time, effort, and dedication to your craft and will continue to anxiously await and thoroughly enjoy all your future stories. Stay true to who you are- it’s a refreshing change of pace!

    Take Care-

  14. Keith
    Keith says:

    Tess:

    Wow! I get busy for a few weeks and by the time I get around to reading the blog again, it seems everything has hit that fan…

    I’ll miss it – it was a consistently interesting and honest view of publishing from a writer’s perspective. But I certainly understand, and completely agree with, your decision to stop now.

    Next conference we’re both at, the first round is one me.

    keith

  15. Sandra_Ruttan
    Sandra_Ruttan says:

    I am sorry to see you make this decision, Tess.

    I think the real delicate balance all authors face isn’t about being too honest, it’s about whether or not we can filter out the garbage we’re bombarded with on the internet.

    No matter what you do, people will disapprove. I started off convention life as “just a reader” (certainly not my words, but I sure heard it from some authors) and moved on to aspiring author, etc. I’ve been in every position, but my roots are with readers, so I hang out with them instead of every “in” crowd going. And I’ve had people tell me reviewers have no business attending conventions, that agents have turned them off different authors because of their public behaviour, that authors have won them over and authors have been dropped because of saying something they didn’t like…

    The moral is only that you can’t please everyone, so to thine own self be true.

    Taking this blog down isn’t going to fix what happened. The reality is, it’s just going to encourage the trolls to do the same next time, because they’ve won. They’ve destroyed a bridge between yourself and a loyal readership here, and a positive outlet for sharing thoughts.

    My own feeling was that, although not all of us agreed or took the same tongue-in-cheek approach, there was a positive spirit here, of acceptance. People could ‘agree to disagree’ and that was okay. It didn’t become personal here.

    Not blogging here isn’t going to stop the people who are attacking you elsewhere.

    Now, end of the day, you have to do what you have to do for your sanity. I know that when I saw an outright lie about me in print in a magazine, I put my 2 cents on my blog. And then I watched as the news was passed via e-mail, as I saw where the hits on my blog that day came from. There are a lot of people who will piss all over others if they think it will get them ahead, even if it’s only a millimeter. What I always appreciated here was that there was honesty. In this era of celebrity wanna-be authors and spit-and-polish blogs geared for selling that have the heart and soul ripped out of them, your blog was so incredibly refreshing.

  16. Tess
    Tess says:

    Thanks to everyone — I do appreciate everyone’s comments.

    I’m so proud of how visitors here have remained civil, and I think that’s the best reflection you could give me — that my visitors are great people, who agree to disagree when need be, without torches and pitchforks. And with some darn funny comments on occasion.

    We don’t do witch hunts here.

    As for the Dear Author issue, let’s all let it sink. Don’t engage with them. I urge this out of concern for you all. I don’t want trouble to follow any of you home.

  17. GerritsenFever10
    GerritsenFever10 says:

    I hate to be cheeky here Tess….but um, besides being an adult, aren’t you a bestselling author AND an internist (at least you still have that knowledge even if you don’t practice anymore)??? What does it matter one iota what other people think about your blog? The Dear Author people (and did you see Nora Roberts on there saying how disgusted she was about the DAM thing?) are just delusional and wanted to flame an author for trying to protect her work from bad reviews. And then taking your comments SO seriously on your blog here when you said in a previous entry something about these books take longer than gestating my children etc etc and they harped on that one boy good grief. As if you meant it to be your books are more valuable than your children…umm, hello it was just a comment about how long it takes you to write the damn books.

    Anyway, you shouldn’t stop blogging just because of a few idiots on another site, say what you want while this is still a free country…probably won’t be for much longer.

  18. JD Rhoades
    JD Rhoades says:

    “As for the Dear Author issue, let’s all let it sink. Don’t engage with them. I urge this out of concern for you all. I don’t want trouble to follow any of you home.”

    ‘Kay.

  19. Lorra Laven
    Lorra Laven says:

    OMG! I go away from my computer for a few days and come back to this!

    There’s a saying among we (mostly) Irish that goes like this: “The Irish are a nation of begrudgers.”

    My mother is 100% Irish and I grew up listening to her tear down everyone who had a better car, house, smarter or more successful kids, etc., etc., etc. I struggle constantly (and not always successfully) against badmouthing others as
    a means to building myself up because jealousy can eat you alive.

    Tess, you’ve had great success as a writer and having read several of your books, I understand that success. That being said, I appreciate your honesty on this blog and your sincerity. I enjoy reading the blog.

    But I don’t blame you if you shut it down for a while. Your readers will just get more writing (and gardening done now that the snow has melted) and you can use your energy to make your next book an even bigger object of begrudgery. (Pretty sure there’s no such word, but who cares?)

    So go for it. I’ll check out your website now and then to keep track of your progress on your next book.

    PS Your husband sounds like a geat guy.

  20. Kyle K.
    Kyle K. says:

    Tess,

    My Saint! My sun of Suns with your arse full of rays!

    (Sorry, I had to go there!)

    It was a bit like talking with a wall, really. Or maybe a parrot who had only memorized a few choice words. As I’m sure you saw, they quickly went from civil arguing to playground mudslinging. Though, admittedly, I did misuse ideological/idealized…! Whoops! Though, you’ll notice that that was pretty much all they had to go on after a while. I haven’t been back since my last comment, and I don’t plan to go again, considering they have nothing constructive left to argue.

    I do hope that you are able to look at this differently in a few days. Your blog has meant so much to us, as you can see with all of the preceding comments here. Please, really, take your own advice and let the issue sink. Pretend like it never happened and move on with your life, and with your blog. Post something in a few days without regard to what others may think of you, because that is what we have all come to know and love. We’ll still be here whenever you choose to come back, which we all hope is very soon.

  21. JD Rhoades
    JD Rhoades says:

    To expand a little on what Kyle said: there are a couple of things that are sure indicators that all useful content has gone out of an Internet discussion. One of them is the nitpicking of grammar, word choice, or God forbid, spelling.

    Another is the dishonest re-frame: “So what you’re saying is…” followed by something that is totally not what you said at all.

    After that starts, talking to a wall would be much more productive.

  22. nkdrenni
    nkdrenni says:

    as a longtime reader/fan of yours, tess, i’ve always thought it was a privilege to read your blog. i’m sorry to see it go, thank you for the read, though i do hope you come back sometime.

    take care.

  23. Tess
    Tess says:

    Here is Jane Litte’s email to me, which she suggested I post because she doesn’t want me to twist her words. She’s right, the decision to leave is no one’s but my own. She says she has no desire to whip this into an “internet frenzy” — but I guess the implication is that she certainly has the power to do so.

    And I think that’s all I need to know my decision to leave is the right one.

    “Dear Ms. Gerritsen:

    I read your blog today. I am a bit disappointed that you would blame my blog post and the commenters for ending your own blogging.

    First, you know that the petition had nothing to do with you and your writing and everything to do with Amazon’s treatment of a reader.

    Second, even if you chose to blog honestly, a blog is not a personal journal. It is a statement for any one out in the public to read, consume and comment on. If you did not want public feedback, why not have a diary that is kept at home for no one else to read? Or why not lock your posts so that only a select few are privy to your thoughts? To blame someone else for the consequences of your own actions seems very irresponsible.

    You’ve stated very offensive and demeaning things towards readers in the past, in essence implying that they are smart enough to spend money on your books but not smart enough to provide any reasoned critique.

    I actually read your blog quite a bit, but in regards to the DAM thing, I didn’t see any humor in it, particularly when you ended with the statement that DAM’s major foolishness was in getting caught. That was not her major foolishness and I think we both know it. Her major foolishness was in obtaining this readers personal information and making threats toward her. At best, this is unethical and at worst, it is felonious.

    I’m not going to rehash this on the internet and whip it anyone into a frenzy, but I really dislike authors blaming my site for negative responses to their own words. If you choose to step back from blogging, you do so because it is your choice and yours alone.

    Best regards,

    Jane Litte

    http://dearauthor.com

  24. Abe
    Abe says:

    Dearest Tess,

    The entire Tess Gerritsen NT-LI fan club is sitting with me at this very moment and we are deeply saddened as to the circumstances that has led to this. We will continue to strive forth and become THE #1 fan club in this area.
    To you, Tess, we wish you all the best in life. We are so sorry to see your blog go but we all know that you are and will continue to be the greatest author and the greatest friend to all of us. You will be in our hearts and prayers and please continue to reach out to us when your next book comes out. Just because you’re not blogging anymore, it doesn’t mean that you have lost any of your faitful fans. Just remember we love you and care about you. Take care and God Bless.
    Abe

  25. Abe
    Abe says:

    *** that should be “NY-LI fan club”. My bad.
    *** that should be “faithful”. My bad again!

  26. Alison Kent
    Alison Kent says:

    If you choose to step back from blogging, you do so because it is your choice and yours alone.

    Of course it is. That doesn’t mean the comment thread wasn’t a catalyst for the decision.

  27. JD Rhoades
    JD Rhoades says:

    Alison: exactly. That whole letter is riddled with textbook examples of the dishonest re-frame. The most blatant example: “…in essence implying that they are smart enough to spend money on your books but not smart enough to provide any reasoned critique.”

    “In essence” and “implying” are signal words for the dishonest re-frame, just like “”so what you’re saying…”

    And Abe: good on ya.

  28. Kyle K.
    Kyle K. says:

    We know you. We know what you meant. We appreciate your sense of humor in an over dramatized situation. Forget them. Write for us. Write for yourself.

    We, your true fans, your true friends, if I may be so bold to say, really understand your intentions. They don’t know what they’re talking about. As you saw, they have no true argument, and are doing this for no other reason than they WANT to argue. Please don’t let one person and her minions destroy your spirit.

  29. Russel
    Russel says:

    Aggghhhh… I hit submit before even finishing a sentence. But I meant it. I ave seen far too many examples of this kind of thing to be surprised by it any more.

    But our host is taking the high road here and that is to be respected.

    I’ve enjoyed a lot of the posts here myself, and I’d just like to say thank you for a lot of them which have given insight into the fraught world of the published author and skimmed the insanity of the publishing world in an often entertaining fashion.

  30. johnwrt1
    johnwrt1 says:

    Tess, Your blog was great because you did say what was really on your mind. Unfortunately that’s too often a dangerous thing to do in public. 🙁

    It’s one reason one often only gets the “real story” if you have a friend who knows it. For awhile blogging allowed many other people to get those great insites, but I’m afraid that is changing now and not just on your site. What a wonderful time it’s been though. Thank you for blessing us all with your honest thoughts.Enjoy the extra free time. Try to stay away from the negative comments, they’re tough on all of us. Don’t let them drag you down. Have fun. It’s spring and isn’t it just a wonderful time of the year!
    John

  31. Ann Woodburn
    Ann Woodburn says:

    Hi Tess : I’m so sorry. Why don’t you lock us out or in I’m not sure which? Anyway I hope you change your mind. At least send us an e-mail when your new book comes out. I wish you and your family all the best and hope to run into you at some conference somewhere. I will keep reading your books.
    Ann

  32. Sandra_Ruttan
    Sandra_Ruttan says:

    “You’ve stated very offensive and demeaning things towards readers in the past, in essence implying that they are smart enough to spend money on your books but not smart enough to provide any reasoned critique.”

    That sums it up. It’s like pulling out past sins to support the present judgment, without actually substantiating these sins. If you’d done so in the past, I would have expected her to have addressed you on them and to reference them to support the assertions.

    Instead, it comes off as slander.

    I wonder at what point we’ll see an author sue over demeaning comments that may hurt their career?

    I’ve never read the site in question. Is it possible this is a case of frustration over extremely bad behaviour from one author spilling over, to prompt more defensive reactions to casual comments than usual? Is it possible tempers are just running so high here that maybe some of that hostility toward the original author is now being vented at other authors who are getting caught in the crossfire?

    I’d like to afford the same benefit of the doubt I’d hope to receive myself… but that letter is upsetting.

    And for the record, I may be sad about your decision, but I understand it and respect your right to take care of yourself. Headaches like this aren’t worth it.

  33. JDK
    JDK says:

    I am new to this, but who is Jane Litte and who anointed her as an authority on ANYTHING? What is her claim to fame, anyway?

  34. Tess
    Tess says:

    JD,
    thanks so much for the comment — and your passion! I’m just trying to keep things under the boiling point here so I edited you a bit.

  35. Tess
    Tess says:

    Micki asked me to post this, as she can’t sign in:
    We understand your sensitivity. We love your sharing of your writing world… how much more it takes than just to sit and pound out words. And we will miss that greatly.
    You don’t have to blog every day. Maybe just when something interests you, for instance the mummy story, or the story about your son trying to teach you to shoot a rifle. And stories of the donkeys.
    I would venture to say most of those ‘other’ people at that ‘other’ site don’t even know you or picked up a book… don’t let them win!!!! You keep on being honest.. and warmly giving of yourself to your READERS!!! Is there a saying or am I just thinking, oh well : You can have your own opinion, even if it is wrong! ??
    Please do continue some blogging… don’t take YOU away from us!!!! ‘They’ won if you do.
    BIG HUG your way… you need one!!!!!!!

    Micki aka Oma Micki

  36. redrobinreader
    redrobinreader says:

    Of course it is. That doesn’t mean the comment thread wasn’t a catalyst for the decision.

    Have you read the comment thread, Alison (you said you don’t read the blog anymore)? The name calling over here is so far beyond what has been said on DA about this, it’s astonishing, really.

  37. Christine
    Christine says:

    Enjoy your freedom. And stop reading Dear Author. And the romance community? Tell me about it.

  38. Alison Kent
    Alison Kent says:

    Have you read the comment thread, Alison (you said you don’t read the blog anymore)? The name calling over here is so far beyond what has been said on DA about this, it’s astonishing, really.

    I’m not the one who felt strongly enough about what was said to close my blog – that was my point. The comments were the catalyst, the final straw for Tess. My opinion is irrelevant (though I don’t condone name calling anywhere).

  39. sabrinawstan
    sabrinawstan says:

    Hey Tess

    Sad to see you go. It was such a pleasure reading your posts, and sometimes I get life’s lessons from it too.

    But if this is your absolute and final decision, I ( and perhaps most people here) will respect your decision.

    Perhaps you can blog under another pseudonym! 🙂

    Looking forward to you books.
    All the best!

  40. Kyle K.
    Kyle K. says:

    Robin, stop being such a hater. This is a hater free zone. Maybe that’s more appropriate at DA, but we don’t attack other people here. What we do is support each other, and Tess.

  41. prowan
    prowan says:

    Tess –

    I will miss reading your blog but will still be reading all of your books!!! You are one of the best writers out there! I hope I get the pleasure of meeting you at a conference some day. Until then – “you go girl”…

    prowan

  42. joe bernstein
    joe bernstein says:

    Tess-I respect your decision,but i will sure miss this blog.The couple of times I met you showed me what a nice person you are.I saw you take a lot of time with every reader who came to your event and I know it wasn’t with a view to selling more books.It was because you know what mutual appreciation was about.Let me say one more thing-the Ineternet is full of bigmouth “fighters”-you know what I did for a living-I would trust you to back me up anytime and that’s no bs.

  43. HeatherCW
    HeatherCW says:

    I signed up just to leave this comment. By far, yours is the best blog I read. I’m not yet published or agented, so I’m miles behind where you are, but your posts are so honest and real. Even though we’re not at the same level, your fears and concerns about people liking your books ring true for me as well. Instead of fluff, your blog provides the real truth about being a professional writer, and I’ve learned so much from reading it. Add me to the group of people hoping you’ll reconsider your ending of the blog. This mess will blow over soon, and those of us who get where you’re coming from will remain.

    Heather

  44. Alison Kent
    Alison Kent says:

    I guess I felt you WERE giving an opinion, Alison.

    Only in that I came to the conclusion that Tess took action (closing her blog) because of the comment thread at DA (the catalyst).

    I wasn’t giving an opinion on her original post about DAM, or on this post, or on either of the posts at DA about DAM, or on the comments at either site.

    (If you’ll remember, tho, I did leave two comments on the original post at DA where I mentioned that I had left an author loop because of DAM’s behavior there.)

  45. T.Jones
    T.Jones says:

    Tess – I am so sorry you are leaving your blog. I look here for your creative insights into everything! There is always someone who is never pleased by anything you say or do. I do know this! You can always believe that there are more people standing besides you, believing in the things you do or say. From one very devoted fan, please hang in there. People that are mean and cruel will get their just deserts in the end. As a lot of other bloggers have said we will miss you terribly. Come back soon!

  46. JD Rhoades
    JD Rhoades says:

    “The name calling over here is so far beyond what has been said on DA about this”

    As one of the “flying monkeys” from the “cult of St. Tess,” I must respectfully disagree.

  47. jtmillsny
    jtmillsny says:

    Tess,
    Just letting you know, I was one of the few who found the black comedy in your last few posts…I, being one who tries a little to write screenplays in my spare time, couldn;t help but picture your little ‘movie’ being made. Now when are you gonna start throwing more of that devilish comedy into your books? Just kidding…although that does make me wonder just what Maura Isles would do at open mic at a comedy club…

    Feel free to disregard the above rant. I’ve been up for about 18 hours now with no caffeine…I thought your little three post argument was brilliant.

    ~J.M.

  48. Liz Wolfe
    Liz Wolfe says:

    Tess, your blog has been an auto-read for me for some time now. I will miss your insights and information. But I totally understand what you’re doing and why.

  49. redrobinreader
    redrobinreader says:

    (If you’ll remember, tho, I did leave two comments on the original post at DA where I mentioned that I had left an author loop because of DAM’s behavior there.)

    Yes, Alison, I remember that well. Thanks for the clarification on the rest.

    As one of the “flying monkeys” from the “cult of St. Tess,” I must respectfully disagree.

    But that’s only one person, as opposed to quite a few here.

  50. Daniel Hatadi
    Daniel Hatadi says:

    Tess, your blog is the first one I think of when looking for an example of what an author blog should be. It’s honest, entertaining and funny. And it has a great community attached to it, which is no accident.

    Sorry to see you closing it down, but Guyot is right. You’ll quickly find how much more energy you have for the other, more important things in life, like writing and playing computer games and drinking (okay, those last two are for me).

    If you do drop in for a random post here or there, we’ll still be here.

    Cheers,
    Daniel

  51. JD Rhoades
    JD Rhoades says:

    “But that’s only one person, as opposed to quite a few here.”

    Guess I’m just too ‘hysterical” and “rabid” a “flying monkey” to see the people here of whom you speak, Robin.

  52. BladeOmega
    BladeOmega says:

    Oh, dear.

    I don’t have anything to say that hasn’t already been said, but I’ll add my voice to the chorus, anyway.

    I will miss these personal communications from you. I have always enjoyed what you have to say. But as long as I get a new book once a year, or thereabouts, I’ll still be happy.

    Thine,
    Onaji

  53. Ekiushi
    Ekiushi says:

    I am also a lurker, in fact I wasn’t even sure if I could remember my password. It will be sad to see this go. What will be my last line of procrastination before I resign myself to doing actual work? I guess, I might actually find myself not trying to finish Uni assignments at 2am in the morning.

    Skimming through the many posts here, one thing did jump out at me.

    The name calling over here is so far beyond what has been said on DA about this, it’s astonishing, really.

    Astonishing? Name calling? Astonishing? Unless they’ve all been edited out, I really don’t see that many. Not what I’d call astonishing. The name calling in Parliament Time is astonishing, this on the other hand? Well, it seems more like I’m reading something written by people with more then two digits in their age.

  54. lwidmer
    lwidmer says:

    Tess, I hope you reconsider. You have good intentions and you have a warm heart. As a mature adult, you apologized to those who were offended. In my mind, any conflict should end there. The offended parties may choose to accept or reject your apology. As they say in sports, shake it off.

    This recent trend bothers me – an errant comment becomes fodder for a week or two, and reputations are called into question. It’s a media-driven frenzy that hurts all of us.

    I know you hate conflict, but I hate seeing you silence yourself for fear of offending. I made some comments in my day that have offended (and I had no idea I was offending, either). I apologized and kept going. Yes, there were some public embarrassments, and I took a trouncing in one case for something I’d said in private that someone spilled online. My bad (that person was the real culprit for being such a mean-spirited snitch, but I did make the remark in question).

    The thing is you can’t stop people from disagreeing, taking offense, or just not liking you for what you say or who you are. The real tragedy is if you decide to go silent because a select few aren’t happy. One thing I’ve learned is that putting your own needs first is okay. If blogging is something you want to do, blog. Those who don’t like it can say so or move on. Their issues should not become your issues. They have a right to their opinions, and you to yours.

    That you don’t moderate comments speaks highly of you, in my opinion. You allow all opinions to come in, and that’s commendable. If the comments become a huge problem, you could always eliminate the ability to comment, as Jennifer Weiner did on her blog (for reasons I’m not privy to).

    Stick around. I for one would miss you greatly.

  55. struggler
    struggler says:

    Hell, if JK Rowling can win a court case against an avid fan, I can see you winning a case against J Litte for slander and other public statements that threaten to undermine your integrity.

    FWIW, I read only ONE blog, Tess, and it’s yours. I’ll keep on checking it out every day until you come back.

    Meanwhile they say you can always take a positive out of a negative – I know I’m not the first to suggest it, but why not use this absurd affair as the central storyline in a quickie standalone novella that you could write and publish using the time that you previously allocated to this blog? All your fans would all buy it, you can count on that, and wouldn’t THAT be a poke in the eye for the trolls?

  56. cjewel
    cjewel says:

    What!! Oh, no!! First off, I am a romance author, and I totally got your post about DA. I completely agree with your sentiments about reviews and reactions to them.

    I enjoy reading your blog and I hope you decide to continue posting. Please!

  57. kjbass
    kjbass says:

    So sorry to see you quit blogging, Tess. I’ve enjoyed your posts so much. If you ever decide to return, I’ll be back, too.

    Continued success in your writing!

  58. Richard Cooper
    Richard Cooper says:

    Tess,
    As you know, some people will misconstrue the most simple of statements, so it’s not surprising they don’t have the wherewithal to understand a complex blog posting. When they do realize at some gut level they’ve gone too far and begin to back-peddle, without apologizing in the least, you know they don’t have (or don’t want to use) the more humbling ability to temporarily deflate their ego and admit their failings. Instead, they just get defensive and nasty. “Troll” is the perfect internet descriptive.

    Additionally, the age and art of respectful, logical argument has not transferred very well to the blogosphere, which is rampant with ill-conceived opinions and amateur arguments. Chalk that up to poor education–not all typing is writing, as Capote observed (albeit while sniping at Jack Kerouac.)

    If people are wondering why so many of their favorite authors choose not to blog, the answer is obvious.

    Everyone who reads your blog regularly “gets” you and understands your respectful POV. I’ve also been to ThrillerFest a couple of times and heard you speak, Tess, and you’re the real deal: genuine, frank, sensitive, intelligent, and freakishly talented. And although your regular blogging has been a blessing to many of us, I can really, truly understand why you would like to reapply your thoughts and energy to your passion, your novels.

  59. Mary Duncan
    Mary Duncan says:

    I’m really going to miss your posts, Tess They given me inspiration, and things to think about, and just interesting ponderings. Hopefully, I’ll see you at the Fertile Mind sometime.

    Best to you.

    Mary Duncan

  60. putney1968
    putney1968 says:

    This isn’t a bash. I’m just pointing out a fact. Number of published books authored by Jane Litte: zero. At least, a search on Search WritersNet turned up nothing.

  61. John Rickards
    John Rickards says:

    It’ll be a shame to see you go, Tess. Intelligent and honest talk on the net is bloody hard to find. That said, like JD, I can understand it – the old saw about what it’s like to argue on the internet holds a great deal of truth.

  62. Deb D
    Deb D says:

    Tess,
    This whole situation is sad all the way around. I have had the privilege of meeting you on several occasions and thoroughly enjoyed talking with you. You’re about as down to earth as they come. I have followed your blog, enjoyed your upbeat posts, your quirky posts and yes, even your whining posts, 😉 but until today, have never taken the time to leave a comment.

    You must do what is best for you, but leaving your blog will certainly leave the writing community (and new writers in particular) without a mentor willing to share so openly and honestly the ups and downs of the publishing industry.

    On the flip side. I have been aware of DAM and some of her actions long before it hit the airwaves. There is some wrong doings there, but of course I understand you were no way condoning her actions.

    As I flip between your blog and Dear Author I am stunned at the misunderstandings. It’s like people (over at DA) are getting defensive and have closed their ears to rational insights as to opinions and intentions.

    It is human nature to defend ourselves. But something goes awry on the blogosphere as people poke and prod at each other all the while totally shutting out what others are saying. I’m sorry you seem to have become the brunt of a bash-fest.

    I am saddened that this whole mess appears to be taking you from those of us who truly appreciate your honesty. But only you know what is best for your personal well being as a writer. Best wishes with whatever you choose.

  63. Denise A. Agnew
    Denise A. Agnew says:

    Tess,

    I am way late answering on this because I hadn’t checked your blog for about two weeks. All I can say is I’m sending good thoughts your way. I totally understand why you’d want to quit writing a blog when it starts to suck the life out of you and your enjoyment of the process is diminished. I’ve seen this happen to more than one person. As a fellow author I’ve always found your blog intriguing and your opinions very spot on. If you decide not to post anymore, I’ll be very sad to see you go…but I understand. Hugs and all the best,

    Denise A. Agnew
    http://www.deniseagnew.com

  64. DL Constance
    DL Constance says:

    As someone else here said — I registered so that I could comment on this disgraceful situation. Tess, I admire you and your writing, and I think it has been courageous of you to keep a blog in the first place. I don’t have that kind of courage. As an aspiring writer who is not yet agented or published, of course, I don’t yet have to consider whether a blog is worth all the pain or the exposure. Perhaps I am lucky that I don’t have to face anything like the firestorm generated by some innocent words.

    In light of the Dear Author mess, and the viciousness slung in your direction, I can fully understand your decision to stand down your own blog. However, I think I am with those who would urge you to reconsider that decision. You will have allowed the meanspirited fleas of this world to drive you from a place where your personal revelations are welcomed, admired and valued. I would hope you might, after a time, be able to employ that quasi Latin axiom: “Illegitimi non carborundum.”

    Though I am a lily-livered coward myself, the kind of nastiness exhibited toward you makes my blood boil. Self-appointed “somebodies” rarely are worth the attention they feel entitled to, and they will have lost more here than you have in the end, I think. I’ve never looked at their website, and you can be sure now that I will not ever do so. But I urge you to shake it off when you finally can and return to this venue. You are loved here — and no one ever has too much of that in their lives.

    Whatever you choose to do, I will continue to enjoy your books, and I wish you all that is good. Thank you for everything of yourself that you have given to us.

  65. Tess
    Tess says:

    Thank you for all the truly kind comments. I am perfectly at peace with my decision. I don’t want to place the blame on any website, but rather, with the nature of the overall blogosphere as it now stands. So much that’s written is easily misinterpreted; so much easily stirs offense. In some ways, stepping back and focusing on other things (such as, for instance, my husband!) could be the best thing I ever did.

  66. Rae
    Rae says:

    Tess,

    Best wishes to you – you’ve set an example of classy behavior here that I hope more people will emulate.

    Thanks for all the entertaining and enlightening writing.

    Cheers,
    Rae

  67. naomi
    naomi says:

    Tess, I will miss your insightful posts, your wit and dark humor (which I love and enjoy) and the community that was drawn together out of a love and respect for your writing. I wish you the best as you continue to move forward in your career and I admire your decision to take care of yourself.

    I will miss this blog and your comments as you took time to reach out to those who posted. I hope to meet you some day in person and will continue to read your books with delight and pleasure. Thank you for being the classy and talented woman you are!

  68. mchastain
    mchastain says:

    Tess I will respect anything you decide to do as long as you continue to write your awesome books. You have every right to say what YOU want to say just like everyone else has the right to say what they want to say.

    Please don’t stop blogging!! It’s so nice to have an author interact with her fans as much as you do. You have NO idea how much all of us appreciate it. It makes me appreciate you and your books so much more.

  69. MrsDidi
    MrsDidi says:

    Dear Tess,
    As you know I read your blog only occasionally.
    So I was upset for you on reading these comments.
    Being a Scot “of few words” I can only think you are better off without giving yourself the hassle og the blog.
    As you said you could be spending your time with more rewarding people, such as your family.
    Will keep in touch occasionally in the usual way.
    Lots of love,
    Edith xx

  70. MrsDidi
    MrsDidi says:

    Sorry Tess! Of course that should have read “of the blog”!

    However maybe “Og the Blog” may well be more apt?

    Could mean a variety of things!

    ATB

  71. maatlockk
    maatlockk says:

    dear tess,

    i know i haven’t checked your blog in ages, and i haven’t left comments. but uni life is hectic.

    i’m disappointed that you have decided to stop blogging. i love reading your blogs and getting updates on what you have been up to, and also getting an insight on what your life is like as an author.

    i respect your decision (although the TessGerritsenFan inside me is bawling and very very unhappy) and I hope that you will continue writing fantastic books – you know we love you, tess!

    i am looking forward to the next book that you have coming up next (whenever that is – hopefully not that soon because i have work to do and once i get one of your books i won’t be able to put it down.)

    i hope that you will still post updates on whatever project you’re working on next. know that we your loyal fans are always here to support you.

    lots of love,
    your adoring fan
    -Izat-

    p/s
    thaks for mailing me the sign bookplates! my best friend (another fan of yours) is green with envy!

    oxoxoxoxoxox
    -izat-

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